"Are they worth it?"
That question seems to be our top ask when we're stuck--nearly settled--in negotiation. It's that certain scenario where you're single, but a person has a placeholder on your heart.
They're not yours, and you're not theirs, so is it cheating if you're talking to another interest?
The clear, cut answer is no. That is the unanimously agreed-upon, civil law, each individual would say on this matter.
But what's to say how the other person feels?
In Breaking Chains, we explore the impossible situationship of Jason & Mia, whose toxic personalities clash, yet suffice, aiding one another in the personal war they're having within their lives.
In this case scenario, [spoiler alert] neither are single, but so wish to be.
One of my fans messaged me recently, claiming that my book has spoken volume to them and that they are dealing with a similar situation in their personal life. She asked for advice. I said, "It all depends on how he treats you. There's no such thing as a linear situation. We all have our ups, our downs, and our stagnant lines." She went to explain that she was, in fact, talking to other guys, and one certain man refused to cooperate. However, once discovering that she's in talks with others, he immediately kicked her to the curb through text message, claiming she's "cheating" and he wanted no part in it.
But she wasn't cheating. She was evaluating her options.
In the end, she discovered her situationship wasn't worth it. It wasn't because she wasn't interested, but because she knew her value. She was worth more than to be treated as an "option," and soon learned that if a man can't lock you down after the first few dates, then, you're more than entitled to keep looking.
So is a situationship worth it?
If you love the high of drama, then I say go for it. But as the author of Breaking Chains, a novel about a girl being "hooked," yet finds herself still swimming in the ocean, I say that your peace is your biggest asset and should be protected at all costs.
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